Could you describe yourself in 3 minutes, you know, describe who you are?
Of course, right?
But really, can you?
What most people tend to do when asked to talk about themselves is go on about the external layers of who they are- their occupations, their interests, their families, perhaps their struggles, all important aspects of the hats they wear but none of which speak of who they fundamentally are.
Let’s go down that rabbit hole, shall we?
Could you separate who you fundamentally are from the external layers of who you are?
Do you even have a concept of who you are beyond the roles you play?
For a majority of people, this is uncharted waters.
I have myself only recently become acquainted with the idea that I am more than the roles I serve.
Yup, you are more than your responsibilities and your labels.
You are more than your role as a mother, a daughter, a CEO, a stay at home parent, etc.
You are more than your responsibilities and your labels.
We can often get lost within these roles and continuously find ourselves try to shake off feelings of something is missing. I do not feel fulfilled and we drown these feelings by self- medicating with our drugs of choice- shopping, accumulations of more material things, alcohol, altered mental states, etc.
So, if you are more than your external layer, who are you?
For starters, you are a conscious being.
You are pure consciousness.
Within your physical beingness, you are a conscious being inhabiting your physical body, which you will do for a finite period of time before returning to only consciousness.
You are also a growth- seeking being which is the reason why your interests or aspirations can change. We tend to cage ourselves in these limited life roles and imagine we shouldn’t want to change yet our very nature is that we are growth-seeking and so we will naturally evolve in various aspects.
You are pure consciousness.
You have thoughts and feelings and emotions.
Actually, our existence on this earth is in 3 worlds at the same time-
The world of thought.
The world of emotion.
And, the world of feeling.
We spend a lot of time in the world of thought, which isn’t to say is a bad thing because before something can exist in its physical form, it must first exist in thought.
Think about whatever you have created, the buildings you see, etc. They were all first mere thoughts, then they became someone’s sustained goals, which saw them actualise them into reality.
The world of thought can however also be a hindrance into experiencing the presentness of your existence.
Your mind can be alit with many thoughts most of your waking as well as asleep hours, which often distract us from being truly present in our experiences.
The human brain experiences 400 billion thoughts per second, but we are only aware of 2000 of them. These 2000 thoughts are usually based on our beliefs. Your mind is able to sift through all thoughts you encounter and only present to you those most aligned with your belief system.
There are many studies which prove this. One study, called the ‘gorilla basketball study’ (google it) demonstrates the selectiveness of our mind, which quite frankly puts a spin on the term, truth or reality because we now understand that everyone’s sense of reality is different.
And these thoughts are usually dictated by the beliefs you hold and whilst these beliefs are often meant to protect us from harm, most just keep us from authentic experiences.
Let me illustrate.
You may hear someone described in a negative sense by people whose opinion you value only for this to impair your experience with this person when you meet them. What ends up happening is that your thoughts prevent you from establishing a true connection with this person, removed from the beliefs you hold of them based on what you have been influenced with.
So, if this person tells you anything believable, but which is contrary to the belief you hold of them, you immediately discredit it as false and actually, you find opportunities to align your belief of them with what they say. For example, if you’ve been told that this person is a liar and they say they just flew back from London, your thoughts immediately go to your belief of them and so you discredit the truth from being true.
What’s important to consider is that although we exist in the world of thought, we are not our thoughts either.
Our thoughts are neither bad nor good and it is possible to observe them without having them impair our experiences or cause us unnecessary pain.
Therefore, you are also a powerful co-creator in your own life as well as the universe. You create what you think about whether intentionally or unintentionally.
The world of emotion is closely related to the world of thought and together, the two worlds form part of our “reality”.
How, you may ask?
You see, the thoughts we think turn into emotions. If right now you started to think about the person at the office who called you an unpleasant name, your body will receive accompanying chemical reactions, which will produce a physical reaction. At the thought of your work incident, you may start to feel rage welling up, which may cause your heart to beat faster and you will feel angry or enraged.
Similarly, if you thought about your date with someone you love, there will be a physical reaction as a result of the chemical reactions related to that thought which will cause you to display specific emotions.
Our hearts on the other hand, never experience judgement. Our hearts have compassion.
When we combine our minds, the thoughts we have with our feelings, we become powerful creators.
We can choose to intentionally create our desired outcomes or unintentionally through our ignorance or lack of awareness of how our thoughts create our “realities”.
You are a powerful creator.
I’m sure you’ve experienced situations where when you’re in a good mood, you find many things seem to be going well whereas when things aren’t going well, multiple other things also seem to be going pear-shaped.
That’s because you are a powerful creator.
And there you have it!
You are more than your external layer.
Fundamentally, you are pure consciousness with the potential to create whatever reality you wish.
Since coming to this awareness, I am trying to be intentional about how I describe myself.
People tend to describe themselves by their professions/roles- I am a speech therapist, I am a mother, etc. Instead, I am trying to be intentional about also mentioning that they are roles I am currently playing.
So, my names are Lorna Muthamia-Ochido, I practice speech therapy, I have 3 children, etc
And yes, it does sometimes make me sound weird…he…he, but I must admit I do like the sound of it.
Often times, we are too identified with our roles that we forget they can be transient. I can one day decide I have had enough of being a speech therapist and really there shouldn’t be any shame or judgement about such a decision because we are all growth-seeking conscious beings and my interests can change from time to time. I may also decide to add to the roles as well.
So, who are you?
Hopefully, if this post resonated in any way with you, you can now consider a response that goes beyond the external layers of who you are.