I had the pleasure of meeting Caroline Mutoko, a powerhouse in the Kenyan media space.
Caroline Mutoko, who most Kenyans know as being vocal about many issues touching on Kenyans, is also a voice of reason on many of those topical, some ingrained, issues and views.
Caroline started off as a radio broadcaster, hosting a popular breakfast show on Kiss 100 FM, before exchanging the radio medium with online media, YouTube more specifically.
She is without doubt, a formidable local influencer, with the kind of substance that makes me proud to share citizenship with her.
Back to the topic…
I met Caroline Mutoko because she had this idea that she should show the rest of Kenya the work of women, who had come on her radar, 30 to be more precise, who she described as doing commendable work in the country.
I heard her go on about how we only keep hearing about common figures, herself included and she felt convicted to shine a spot light on some other new kids on the block.
I happened to be 1 of the 30 women
It was an unexpected selection, which I feel incredibly appreciative of and humbled by.
I maintain that, creating content that inspires and empowers is my small contribution towards knowledge dissemination and service to people.
I do so not expecting recognition and when one comes by, it serves as a reaffirmation that quitting when times get tough, shouldn’t and cannot be an option.
Now, I also do not for 1 second imagine I am better than anyone and I know for certain that there are countless amazing women not just in Kenya but the world over doing remarkably amazing things and for light to have been shone on me, I know I cannot let my ego get in the way.
I have spent some time thinking about this recognition and the one thing I keep coming up with is the person behind the vision- Caroline Mutoko.
When the work of an influencer is to expand and solidify hold and create revenue through paid ventures, for an influencer then, to decide to show case other women, potentially crowding their own visibility and without any monetary gain, I thought to myself, does Caroline Mutoko know something that we don’t?
I believe Caroline Mutoko, knows, like I have for a while now, that we are more alike than we are different.
You and I, that is and everyone on this universe.
We like to think there is us and them without realising that that is one of modern days’ fallacies.
And what connects us to who and what’s in the world is compassion.
And what we do in our lives not only affects our lives, but also sets off a ripple effect in the world.
Being wealthy and successful should be seen as a responsibility.
To whom much is given, much is expected.
And this isn’t just referring to Caroline Mutoko, but you and I as well. We may not all enjoy the wealth or status of Caroline Mutoko, but there is still a lot we can do in our own capacities.
And if nothing else, kindness is always a very viable option.
A gesture by someone to shine a spot light on another’s creations (the things they are doing), not only alters that person’s life, but also the world around us.
Because we are co-creators in this world. We have the power within our hearts to change the physical world around us.
I think Abraham Hicks calls it the power that creates universes.
Because of being featured on Caroline Mutoko’s show, a parent somewhere in a corner of Kenya or the world may get to learn something about how to improve their child’s language skills.
And by so doing, completely alter the trajectory of that child’s or that parent’s future.
Maybe that parent was feeling disillusioned and depressed because they didn’t have the tools and as a result of finding 1 of my videos, they get to know what they can do and the child who would have otherwise been relegated to a life of under performance, now stands a decent chance of optimising their outcomes.
Which means, they’ll now also one day be able to be independent of their parents, perhaps start a family of their own and impact generations as a result.
Ripple effects are powerful momentum starters.
Our beliefs and quantum possibilities
There are many quantum possibilities in our lives all created as waves of energy.
And beliefs are what create electrical waves.
All of us have inherent beliefs which shape our choices and actions in life.
And what you believe in your heart is what determines the quantum possibility.
If you believe in being the change you want to see in the world, you’ll act as though your action towards whatever cause you stand for is enough. You will care very little about your insecurities or the deafening sound of your limiting beliefs.
However, if years of listening to your inner critic, media prophecies of fear, your own conditioning or up-bringing which taught you to be cynical and negative are what are driving your choices and actions, then you will probably always stand defeated, judgemental and critical of even the good that is around you.
What we choose to focus on is what creates the world around us.
Our own beliefs create our world.
And remember we are all connected to each other.
The question then is how can you use the connection that’s already present to become better and create a better world?
I feel Caroline Mutoko through her show; her voice, has chosen, in capacity, to shine light to the causes that resonate with her.
She is choosing to be proactive about the issues that matter to her as by speaking about them, she is in fact breathing life into the change she hopes to see.
The very thing you wish to experience has to be your portion. It has to be the thing you live by every single day.
I can only imagine that it cannot have been smooth-sailing for Caroline Mutoko not because of her status as a media personality, but also because she has chosen to put herself out there, go where no one dares to and we all know being in the limelight means constant scrutiny and having to deal with entitled haters.
The Caroline Mutoko I met oozed warmness. She was chatty and definitely a passionate human being.
Somehow, I felt she had acquired the thick skin requisite of her job title.
She looked like she had perfected the sequence of creating worlds- she imagined possibilities with her mind and with her heart, went about making them possible.
She had mastered how to get out of her own way. Something that keeps many people trapped, playing small and subsequently judging those that mirror back to them what could have been possible had they been braver.
When you feel jealous or resentful because someone else is successful, that is proof to you that you know you are capable of greatness, but you are probably playing small. Most times, those feelings can also, if examined consciously and without ego, uncover a belief you hold that may be causing you to settle.
Don’t forget, beliefs change our physical world.
We all need to learn from Caroline Mutoko’s example and be co-creators of our world.
Whatever we want to see in the world, we have the power to create.
Our hearts already know that, but our minds can sometimes keep us trapped.
In order to evict the limiting beliefs we house rent-free in our minds, we must cultivate compassion in our lives.
We do so by first being grateful. Being grateful is a link to our highest selves.
Gratitude keeps many negative feelings at bay.
Second, we must recognise that we are more alike than we are different. We are actually connected to each other. And if that’s the case, neglecting to help your neighbour; holding a grudge for years with your enemy are all events that forget how connected we all are.
A different way to look at it is the relationship you have with the individual parts of your body. You would do anything to preserve them, right? You wouldn’t neglect to look after your left arm because you didn’t like it- that would be ridiculous.
And finally, we must learn to live more mindfully; more consciously; more awake as this reins in the ego. The ego cannot thrive when you live in the now; and not out of your past or by being fixated on the future.
The ego basically refers to your identification with your mindset, which is formed from the beliefs we hold about things, situations or people.
Let us all show support to those doing good things out there.
They have chosen to be active participants in the co-creation of our world.
And whether you decide to do the same or allow fear, ego, or limiting beliefs get the better of you, you too have chosen to co-create albeit passively and we shall all feel the effects of your passive co-creation.
Caroline Mutoko, I celebrate you!
I celebrate your tenacity, your unrelenting passion, your resilience, the example you set with your work and the way you have paved for other African women to become unapologetic in their ambitions and successes.
Caroline, if no one has said it to you lately, now you know!